Ever make a decision and then hear that little voice in the back of your mind says, “what were you thinking?”
And then spend DAYS going over and over that decision in your mind — mostly at 3 am.
Overcoming self-doubt is something everyone has had to deal with at some point in time.
Today let’s talk about three ways you can deal with self-doubt.
Self-Compassion: Speak to Yourself as You Would a Friend
Many of us speak so unkindly to ourselves and don’t even realize it.
When you catch yourself speaking this way to yourself, it’s important to stop and course correct.
Say something that is true.
Say something that is the opposite of what you just said.
Say something positive that you will believe about yourself.
Think about what you would say to a friend if they had just done the exact same thing. You’d be kind and supportive, wouldn’t you?
Say those things to yourself over and over and before you know it…you’ll believe them.
Imposter Syndrome: You Don’t Have to Be Perfect
Imposter syndrome is when you don’t feel good enough to be doing what you are doing.
You feel like a fraud.
Like people will find out the real you isn’t perfect.
What you need to understand is that people aren’t only coming to you for the information or skills you can give them.
They are coming to you for you.
They can get the same message from anyone…yes, but they need to hear this message from you.
They like your light and want to have it shine on them.
You don’t have to be perfect. You just have to be you.
Self-Reflection: You Have to Fail to Grow
Making mistakes is a necessary part of life.
Without mistakes, you can’t grow, and without growing you can’t become the person you are meant to be.
Look at what you think of as a failure and see what lessons you learned from that experience.
Learning the art of self-reflection is a foundational habit to living an enlightened life.
Sometimes self-doubt is there to protect you.
Sometimes self-doubt is there to send you a message.
And sometimes self-doubt is there to teach you.
So maybe it’s not such a bad thing.
Overcoming self-doubt is a journey where you will never reach your destination, but that’s ok.
By using self-compassion, identifying imposter syndrome, and utilizing the important habit of self-reflection, you will kick self-doubt to the curb and your soul will be singing before you know it.
I’d love to invite you to join my Habit Masters Membership where we’ll work on overcoming self-doubt and building more resilience by establishing a mindfulness practice.